Friend Zone – A popular Nigerian slang goes thus “Breakfast na national cake e go touch everybody”. It all centers on heartbreak and how everyone would have their own fair share. Ironic right! Who wants such a heart-wrenching experience? Definitely, no one. It’s so funny how we all tend to make fun of heartbreak but that doesn’t make it any less painful.
Have you ever thought of what could be worse than a relationship break-up? Ah! Friend zone. A form of rejection that slowly lets you down by offering a lifetime friendship rather than a romantic relationship. Trust me, you don’t want to end up in that zone. It’s one of the most hurtful situations where you’re tagged as only a friend by someone you are interested in for a romantic relationship
You seem so perfect for that guy or girl, a great confidant at that, always at his/her beck and call, hung out on various occasions, or the fact that they enjoy your company doesn’t mean they have feelings for you. It’s funny how you might have been friend zoned without you even knowing which is why you must know the signs to avoid stories that touch the heart. Relax! Here’s the good news, the moment you identify the signs, you’re already a step ahead of escaping it.
Here are obvious signs that you have been trapped in the friend zone;
1. Openly Talks About His/Her Problems
You’re always the first person he/she wants to talk to discuss their personal problems with. It’s been proven over the years that most people shy away from discussing their problems with people they are interested in for a romantic relationship as a way to impress them. Talking about his/her problems to you might mean he/she considers you as a great friend and a shoulder to lean on during hard times.
2. Tells You About His/Her Ideal Type, or Crush And You Don’t Fall Within Any of Those Categories
If he/she goes on and on talking about a guy/ bae they are attracted to, it’s clear they don’t have any romantic interest in you.
3. Introduces You As A Friend To His/Her Family And Friends
What does he/she address you as to when introducing you to their family and friends? It’s one of the best ways to define your relationship.
4. Go Out On Casual Dates
Most of your hangouts are not romantic dates. Does he/she show up with the whole squad without prior notice? It’s a sign!
5. Tells You How Perfect You’re For Another Person
The person tries to set you up on dates with a friend of his or hers telling you how you both would make a perfect match.
6. Feels Too Comfortable Around You
No emotional attachment when the person is around. He/she feels so free around you without any romantic feelings. Just purely friendship vibes. Maybe it’s time to define the relationship.
7. Call You Funny Pet Names
Does he/she call you girlie, guy, bro, big head, Baby face, buddy, amigo…? Funny right! Yes, it might be a sign.
8. Says You Are Like A Sister or Brother to Him/Her
Once you’re labeled as a brother or sister in the eyes of someone you admire. You’re officially welcome to the friend zone.