Love is a beautiful thing. Being in love is always a blissful experience. Have you seen two love birds who are sincerely in love with each other? The way they do things together could make one drool, especially if one is not in love with anybody at the time.
However, lovers should watch out for the following before walking down the aisle. This is simply because marriage requires lots of commitment, energy, and effort. It is not easy to give your whole life to someone you do not really know. Are you wondering why I say someone you do not know? I say this because gone are the days when people court for longer years. Courtship nowadays could span from a period of three months to one year. Giving your life to someone without really knowing who they are, can be so dangerous.
Has he proposed to you and you are considering ‘a yes’ for an answer? Are you already seeing indications that your relationship could lead to marriage? Are you already hearing words like ‘this is a take-home to Mama,’ ‘this is for real,’ ‘no jokes things,’ ‘my last bus stop,’ and some other words which signal a lasting commitment from the guy’s side? You need to halt a bit. Consider asking these deep questions before walking down the aisle with the love of your life. Do not forget, a healthy relationship is a lasting relationship.
Deep questions to ask your boyfriend;
1. Check His HIV Status As Well as Hepatitis Status
Those days, the only commonly known test usually conducted on intending couples is HIV/AIDS test. However, the Hepatitis confirmation test has joined the list recently. Therefore, you must know his status. Does he have any of these viral infections? Can you cope with it? Is it something you can manage? Do you plan to live the rest of your life with him even with the condition? These and many more are deep questions that you should ask yourself. In confirmation of your partner’s status, you should visit a good hospital in town for a blood test. Hepatitis A, B, and C seem to be the most worrisome disease nowadays it is even more dreadful than HIV/AIDS. You are therefore advised to look before you leap.
2. Go For Fertility Test
Many people out there have been exposed to some sexually transmitted diseases which have done one harm or the other to their reproductive life. You really need to know the truth from the outset. You should not go into that marriage with deception and ignorance. Admonish your partner to follow you to the hospital for the two of you to get your fertility test done. In case there is an infection that could result in infertility, it is better treated early than to wait till after marriage when so much damage could have been done.
3. Blood Compatibility Test
Another important test to go for is the blood compatibility test. You need to go for this test to avoid some future mistakes. You must know each other’s blood groups to avoid a blood mismatch. For instance, someone with AS genotype must not marry another AS carrier, this is to prevent them from giving birth to a child with sickle cell anemia.
There is another blood group that is rare but present, it is AC. An AC carrier should under no circumstance marry another AC, AS, or SS carrier. This attempt can be so disastrous especially regarding childbirth and reproductive health.
More so, another important thing to know is the Rhesus factor, you should know each other’s Rhesus factor and how compatible it is. Rhesus factor can either be positive or negative. If your Rhesus factor is positive, your partner’s Rhesus factor must be positive and vice versa.
4. Genetic Medical Test
Go for a test and confirm that he does not have diseases such as cancer, liver problem, kidney diseases, and the likes of them. The reason is simply because once a disease is genetic, it is only a management treatment that will be required. The patient will be placed on routine drugs and his health will have to be managed forever.
5. A Great Mentor, A Must Have
Does he have a mentor whom he listens to regardless of his level of anger? You will be saving yourself a whole lot of headache/heartache if you get married to a man with a great mentor whom he listens to.
Character/Behavioral Traits
Have you given his behavioral/character traits a thorough check? It is highly important. His personality will eventually have a great impact on you. So, before you rush to say I do to that prince charming, sit yourself down, calm down, and check his attitude thoroughly. Ask deep questions such as:
1. Is He Selfish Or Stingy?
Under no circumstance should you walk down the aisle with a stingy man. If while courting him he is stingy, it simply means that when you finally settle down with him, he will not change and will rather become stingier.
2. Is He Unaccommodating?
If he hates seeing your loved ones around you, if he frowns at you whenever he sees you with your family, friends, and associates, then he is simply unaccommodating, let him go.
3. Is He Prudent Or Not
If your prince charming is such that will not mind spending all the money in his pocket without considering saving some, then he is not prudent, he is a spendthrift. You should give it a second thought before walking down the aisle with him.
4. Does He Have A Listening Ear?
There is nothing as bad as walking down the aisle with someone who is so heady and terribly adamant. If you talk with him and he refuses to listen to you, then he is not a good husband material, flee from him.
5. Does He Respect Your People?
Does he deprive you of the opportunity of talking about your parents, siblings, cousins, and friends while engaging in one conversation or the other? Look out for the signal, he lacks respect. Does he see your people as his?.
6. Financial Strength
Before you say l do, you need to ascertain that your prince charming is financially responsible. Ensure he has a saving culture just because of unforeseen.
